Mental health bank

My yoga instructor, friend, and the creator of the most amazing supportive mommy community I’ve ever had the pleasure of being a part of, made the greatest post the other day on Facebook. She said that even though we all suffer from “mom guilt,” you know what I mean- that feeling that you get  when you just need to a minute to yourself, want to get your nails done, go to the gym, get a coffee with your friend, etc. but don’t want to because you can’t shake the idea that you should be home instead with your kids/spouse etc, doing your “mom duties.” The best way to get over that feeling is to change your outlook on things. We should instead, consider “me time” to be deposits in to our own mental health bank. Conversely, every time we do something for others- family members and friends included- it’s a withdrawal from the account.

 Of course we cannot imagine that we will be at an equal balance with this account, (withdrawals and deposits) we all tend to give much more of ourselves than we make time for ourselves; however we also can’t expect to withdraw and withdraw from an account without ever making any deposits… 

I love this new dialogue. It’s not about being selfish, it’s about taking care of yourself so that you can continue to be what you need to be for everyone else too. (Without going totally bananas) Today, due to a special work circumstance, I was able to sit in the sun and close my eyes and read a book and get a tan on a sunny day! This was a major deposit in my mental health bank that came at the perfect time. Stress has been running very high this week… and sometimes, that’s when we really need to stop and remember to take care of ourselves too. When was your last deposit? Are you due? 

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