Fun and Games · Self Exploration

Scruples!

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scru·ple
ˈskro͞opəl/
noun
plural noun: scruples
1. a feeling of doubt or hesitation with regard to the morality or propriety of a course of action.
2. A game of moral dilemmas invented in Canada in 1984, when a man who was studying mortality amongst baby boomers came up with a questionnaire for his friends, who had so much fun discussing the answers at length, they said, “hey, we ought to make this into a game!”
Have you played before?
This weekend, while at Steve’s family’s house, we were immersed in our own little game of a “scruplesesque”  moral dilemma. Here’s the quandary- Steve’s brother, who has always been a big baseball fan, and has collected cards since he was younger, found out that a certain baseball card was worth approximately $10,000. A certain run of these cards had been printed with an error, making these rare “mistake cards,” a valuable treasure!
Around the same time that he had heard about the value of this card, he recalled that a friend of his, about 25 years ago, had left a binder of his baseball cards at his house one afternoon while they were playing. As luck would have it, my brother in law recalled that his friend’s collection not only contained a copy of this player’s card, but that this binder also still happened to be collecting dust in the crawl space in my in-law’s garage! Over 25 years had passed since his friend had left these cards at his house, the friend in question had never asked for or attempted to retrieve the binder of baseball cards. (And although they technically once belonged to him, they had now been in my brother in law’s possession for the last 25 years, and my BIL wasn’t even sure the friend even remembered once owning or leaving these cards at his house.)
Now for the dilemma… do you try to get in touch with the friend to tell him that you have this baseball card that once belonged to him, and it is now worth 10 grand? Do you call and tell him and offer to split the pot with him if you can dig up the card? Do you keep your mouth shut and cash in for yourself?
Turns out that although my brother in law did actually find the card! – it was not the one with the printed error and was only worth a couple of bucks. But this interesting predicament got us all talking, and debating, and discussing for quite a while. (Hey! this ought to be a game!) It was so intriguing to hear what everyone’s justification was, for either side of the argument, and it was genuinely surprising to hear some of the answers- especially from people you think you know a lot about!
This stirred up memories of the board game Scruples, and although I had never played, I remember it vividly in my parent’s hall closet where they kept all the board games when I was growing up. After a quick Google search, it turns out that the popular 80’s game is now a free app!
And just for fun, here is Scruples on The Johnny Carson show:
 
And… on Everybody Loves Raymond
Fast forward to 6:42
 

Family · Self Exploration

Your personality…In just one word

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This week at my kids’ daycare, they gave our kids, (ahem, me and my husband) a special assignment. One of the displays for the front lobby they are making this week involves a wall of index cards. Each index card has a photo of each child on it and ONE word that best describes them, chosen by their parents, or by the child if they are old enough. One word, that’s all we get! It started getting me thinking a lot about personality traits and personality types. I’m sure you’ve taken a personality test, like the Myers- Briggs test, or the 16 personality type test, but to pare your personality down into just one word almost seems impossible. (Especially since I’m a pretty wordy person..hmm..maybe my one word should be wordy?! Ha!) Even though our kids are just 2 years old, and 9 months old, I can already see their little personalities shining through. It’s so funny to wonder if they will take after Steve and I as they grow up. (I think Dash is already showing signs of it!) Hopefully, if that’s the case, they share my sense of adventure, my creativity and my compassion- and not my tendency to procrastinate, my forgetfulness, and my lack of organization.. Ha!

Below is a list of  600 personality traits divided up into 3 categories- positive traits, neutral traits and negative traits- which ones fit you? (Which ones do you aspire to?) Which ones would you pick for your spouse? Your kids? Could you pick only one?

Positive Traits
Accessible
Active
Adaptable
Admirable
Adventurous
Agreeable
Alert
Amiable
Anticipative
Appreciative
Articulate
Aspiring
Athletic
Attractive
Balanced
Benevolent
Brilliant
Calm
Capable
Captivating
Caring
Challenging
Charismatic
Charming
Cheerful
Clean
Clear-headed
Clever
Colorful
Companionly
Compassionate
Conciliatory
Confident
Conscientious
Considerate
Constant
Contemplative
Cooperative
Courageous
Courteous
Creative
Cultured
Curious
Daring
Debonair
Decent
Decisive
Dedicated
Deep
Dignified
Directed
Disciplined
Discreet
Dramatic
Dutiful
Dynamic
Earnest
Ebullient
Educated
Efficient
Elegant
Eloquent
Empathetic
Energetic
Enthusiastic
Esthetic
Exciting
Extraordinary
Fair
Faithful
Farsighted
Felicific
Firm
Flexible
Focused
Forceful
Forgiving
Forthright
Freethinking
Friendly
Fun-loving
Gallant
Generous
Gentle
Genuine
Good-natured
Gracious
Hardworking
Healthy
Hearty
Helpful
Heroic
High-minded
Honest
Honorable
Humble
Humorous
Idealistic
Imaginative
Impressive
Incisive
Incorruptible
Independent
Individualistic
Innovative
Inoffensive
Insightful
Insouciant
Intelligent
Intuitive
Invulnerable
Kind
Knowledge
Leader
Leisurely
Liberal
Logical
Lovable
Loyal
Lyrical
Magnanimous
Many-sided
Masculine
Mature
Methodical
Meticulous
Moderate
Modest
Multi-leveled
Neat
Objective
Observant
Open
Optimistic
Orderly
Organized
Original
Painstaking
Passionate
Patient
Patriotic
Peaceful
Perceptive
Perfectionist
Personable
Persuasive
Playful
Polished
Popular
Practical
Precise
Principled
Profound
Protean
Protective
Providential
Prudent
Punctual
Purposeful
Rational
Realistic
Reflective
Relaxed
Reliable
Resourceful
Respectful
Responsible
Responsive
Reverential
Romantic
Rustic
Sage
Sane
Scholarly
Scrupulous
Secure
Selfless
Self-critical
Self-defacing
Self-denying
Self-reliant
Self-sufficent
Sensitive
Sentimental
Seraphic
Serious
Sexy
Sharing
Shrewd
Simple
Skillful
Sober
Sociable
Solid
Sophisticated
Spontaneous
Sporting
Stable
Steadfast
Steady
Stoic
Strong
Studious
Suave
Subtle
Sweet
Sympathetic
Systematic
Tasteful
Teacherly
Thorough
Tidy
Tolerant
Tractable
Trusting
Uncomplaining
Understanding
Undogmatic
Upright
Urbane
Venturesome
Vivacious
Warm
Well-bred
Well-read
Well-rounded
Winning
Wise
Witty
Youthful

Neutral Traits
Absentminded
Aggressive
Ambitious
Amusing
Artful
Ascetic
Authoritarian
Big-thinking
Boyish
Breezy
Businesslike
Busy
Casual
Cerebral
Chummy
Circumspect
Competitive
Complex
Confidential
Conservative
Contradictory
Crisp
Cute
Deceptive
Determined
Dominating
Dreamy
Driving
Droll
Dry
Earthy
Effeminate
Emotional
Enigmatic
Experimental
Familial
Folksy
Formal
Freewheeling
Frugal
Glamorous
Guileless
High-spirited
Hurried
Hypnotic
Iconoclastic
Idiosyncratic
Impassive
Impersonal
Impressionable
Intense
Invisible
Irreligious
Irreverent
Maternal
Mellow
Modern
Moralistic
Mystical
Neutral
Noncommittal
Noncompetitive
Obedient
Old-fashioned
Ordinary
Outspoken
Paternalistic
Physical
Placid
Political
Predictable
Preoccupied
Private
Progressive
Proud
Pure
Questioning
Quiet
Quirky
Religious
Reserved
Restrained
Retiring
Sarcastic
Self-conscious
Sensual
Skeptical
Smooth
Soft
Solemn
Solitary
Stern
Strict
Stubborn
Stylish
Subjective
Surprising
Soft
Tough
Unaggressive
Unambitious
Unceremonious
Unchanging
Undemanding
Unfathomable
Unhurried
Uninhibited
Unpatriotic
Unpredictable
Unsentimental
Whimsical
Negative Traits
Abrasive
Abrupt
Agonizing
Aggressive
Aimless
Aloof
Amoral
Angry
Anxious
Apathetic
Arbitrary
Argumentative
Arrogant
Artificial
Asocial
Bewildered
Bizarre
Bland
Blunt
Boisterous
Brittle
Brutal
Calculating
Callous
Cantankerous
Careless
Charmless
Childish
Clumsy
Coarse
Cold
Colorless
Complacent
Complaining
Compulsive
Conceited
Condemnatory
Conformist
Confused
Contemptible
Conventional
Cowardly
Crass
Crazy
Criminal
Critical
Crude
Cruel
Cynical
Decadent
Deceitful
Delicate
Demanding
Dependent
Desperate
Destructive
Devious
Difficult
Disconcerting
Discontented
Discouraging
Discourteous
Dishonest
Disloyal
Disobedient
Disorderly
Disorganized
Disputatious
Disrespectful
Disruptive
Dissonant
Distractible
Disturbing
Dogmatic
Domineering
Dull
Easily Discouraged
Egocentric
Envious
Erratic
Escapist
Extravagant
Extreme
Faithless
False
Fanatical
Fanciful
Fatalistic
Fawning
Fearful
Fickle
Fiery
Fixed
Flamboyant
Foolish
Forgetful
Fraudulent
Frightening
Frivolous
Gloomy
Graceless
Greedy
Grim
Gullible
Hateful
Haughty
Hedonistic
Hesitant
Hidebound
High-handed
Hostile
Ignorant
Imitative
Impatient
Impractical
Imprudent
Impulsive
Inconsiderate
Incurious
Indecisive
Indulgent
Inert
Inhibited
Insecure
Insensitive
Insincere
Insulting
Intolerant
Irascible
Irrational
Irresponsible
Irritable
Lazy
Malicious
Mannerless
Mechanical
Meddlesome
Melancholic
Messy
Miserable
Miserly
Misguided
Mistaken
Money-minded
Moody
Morbid
Muddle-headed
Naive
Narcissistic
Narrow
Narrow-minded
Negative
Neglectful
Neurotic
Nihilistic
Obnoxious
Obsessive
Obvious
Odd
Offhand
One-dimensional
One-sided
Opinionated
Opportunistic
Oppressed
Outrageous
Paranoid
Passive
Pedantic
Perverse
Petty
Plodding
Pompous
Possessive
Power-hungry
Predatory
Prejudiced
Presumptuous
Pretentious
Prim
Procrastinating
Provocative
Puritanical
Reactionary
Reactive
Regimental
Regretful
Repentant
Repressed
Resentful
Ridiculous
Rigid
Ritualistic
Ruined
Sadistic
Sanctimonious
Scheming
Scornful
Secretive
Sedentary
Selfish
Self-indulgent
Shallow
Shortsighted
Sloppy
Slow
Sly
Small-thinking
Softheaded
Sordid
Steely
Stiff
Stupid
Submissive
Superficial
Superstitious
Suspicious
Tactless
Tasteless
Tense
Thievish
Thoughtless
Timid
Transparent
Treacherous
Trendy
Troublesome
Unappreciative
Uncaring
Uncharitable
Unconvincing
Uncooperative
Uncreative
Uncritical
Unctuous
Undisciplined
Unfriendly
Ungrateful
Unhealthy
Unimaginative
Unimpressive
Unlovable
Unpolished
Unprincipled
Unrealistic
Unreflective
Unreliable
Unrestrained
Unstable
Vacuous
Vague
Venomous
Vindictive
Vulnerable
Weak
Willful